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Tuesday, August 25, 2015

Raising Strong Daughters--#breathefire

Author and mom Jessica Kirkland, is pleading with parents to raise strong, independent daughters, in the wake of the Josh Duggar, 28, scandals. She wrote a long post on her Facebook account on Aug. 20 and it has since gone viral! We are in support of the idea of raising strong daughters, do you? Here is the the post below:

Read Jessica’s Letter Below:

“I know everybody is laughing about this Josh Duggar story. Oh, a DUGGAR on Ashley Madison, it’s so rich! I wish more people would talk about Anna. I normally keep things light on Facebook, but let’s talk about Anna. Let me tell you: Anna Duggar is in the worst position she could possibly be in right now. Anna Duggar was crippled by her parents by receiving no education, having no work experience (or life experience, for that matter) and then was shackled to this loser because his family was famous in their religious circle. Anna Duggar was taught that her sole purpose in life, the most meaningful thing she could do, was to be chaste and proper, a devout wife, and a mother. Anna Duggar did that! Anna Duggar followed the rules that were imposed on her from the get-go and this is what she got in reward- a husband who she found out, in the span of 6 months, not only molested his own sisters, but was unfaithful to her in the most humiliating way possible. While she was fulfilling her “duty” of providing him with four children and raising them. She lived up to the standard that men set for her of being chaste and Godly and in return, the man who demanded this of her sought women who were the opposite. “Be this,” they told her. She was. It wasn’t enough.
What is Anna Duggar supposed to do? She can’t divorce because the religious environment she was brought up would blame her and ostracize her for it. Even if she would risk that, she has no education and no work experience to fall back on, so how does she support her kids? From where could she summon the ability to turn her back on everything she ever held to be sacred and safe? Her beliefs, the very thing she would turn to for comfort in this kind of crisis, are the VERY REASON she is in this predicament in the first place. How can she reconcile this? Her parents have utterly, utterly failed her. Think of this: somewhere, Anna Duggar is sitting in prayer, praying not for the strength to get out and stand on her own, but for the strength to stand by this man she is unfortunately married to. To lower herself so that he may rise up on her back.
As a mother of daughters, this makes me ill. Parents, WE MUST DO BETTER BY OUR DAUGHTERS. Boys, men, are born with power. Girls have to command it for themselves. They aren’t given it. They assume it and take it. But you have to teach them to do it, that they can do it. We HAVE to teach our daughters that they are not beholden to men like this. That they don’t have to marry a man their father deems “acceptable” and then stay married to that man long, long after he proved himself UNACCEPTABLE. Educate them. Empower them. Give them the tools they need to survive, on their own if they must. Josh Duggar should be cowering in fear of Anna Duggar right now. Cowering. He isn’t, but he should be. He should be quaking in fear that the house might fall down around them if he’s in the same room as she. Please, instill your daughters with the resolve to make a man cower if he must. To say “I don’t deserve this, and my children don’t deserve this.” I wish someone had ever, just once, told Anna she was capable of this. That she knew she is. As for my girls, I’ll raise them to think they breathe fire.”
To all parents raising their daughters to be strong when its needed--cheers!!

Monday, August 17, 2015

Plaids "R" Us

Target has unveiled its Adam Lippes collection look book and the retailer's latest designer collaboration is an ode to chic checkered prints . The line, which features pieces for men and women (plus home goods), includes more than 50 buffalo plaid-inspired items to keep you swathed in the trendy pattern through fall.  Here are some of the pieces we are in luv with:


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Target has unveiled its Do you agree with our favourites? Checkout   for more selections of this trend.

Sunday, August 9, 2015

Tonto Dikeh Tells It like It Is--Again

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I just finished watching the movie " Shame Unto Her " Starring Tontoh Dikeh , one of my favorite African Actors. There are many great talents in Nollywood but i admire Tonto not only for her talent but her ability to stand in the truth of who she is no matter what may come.  I was in the process of looking her twitter account up to tell her that while I celebrate where is is now with her music--I really do miss seeing her on the screens in movies. I came across this and just had to share. Forget all the hype, this is why I love her. To more bad-ass sisters doing there own thing and living according to their own truth everywhere--Cheers.
Read her rants below: –
Catch flights don’t catch feelings?So tell me,what is your reason for being? The purpose of your existence? The same reasons why many of us are here in the first place…I don’t mean to kill the BOSS attitudes,but I work with bosses all the time. The people who prioritised work over relationships aren’t happy with their Lives.
You have to be able to find a balance,Yes we all have an economic reality,But No,money can’t love you. Be happy at every opportunity,never repress your love for the sake of trying to make enough money” What is enough? Can you feed your self? Do you have a bed to sleep in at night?
Yet you want a bigger bed,Forgetting that you could be looking for some1 to share it with. Dont miss out on a family just for money… Don’t turn into a bitter and cynical person because you were in love once & it didn’t work out.. Yes you invest emotional energy into your partner,but you will always have more energy…. You have a lot of Love to Give.
Energy can’t be destroyed so you can’t say it was wasted. Your partner cheated on you… Doesn’t mean all humans are cheats. My ex was a cheat,A prolific internet whore and a FAKE but that didn’t stop me from loving even harder the next time….. You have to be in it to win it. Building breakable barriers will leave you lonely. 
Loneliness would leave you SAD If you don’t allow people to get close to you then yes you might not hurt,but you will never FEEL. Feelings are just VISITORS,Let them Come and Go. So catch feelings and flights,but don’t forget LOVE,because that is what all humans need. Don’t let modern trends change your mindset in CYNICAL ways… 
Leaving a life without Love,is not Living at all.LET LOVE REIN #POKOBARS

Thursday, August 6, 2015

Headwraps Too

I came across these beautiful pictures on AFP. Apparently they are  from an Africa-inspired photo shoot titled “For the Love of Print“. Try some of these headwrap styles for your summer and share the looks with us.

Afriq Expressions

Afriq Expressions

Afriq Expressions

Photo Credit
Photo: Sunmisola Olorunnisola
Makeup: Dodos Uvieghara – D’Artiste by Dodos 
Models: Faith Morey  Nneka Edozie